Boundaries are the things we struggle with most. Growing up in a world where we are told what to do, we are taught that boundaries are not important. We may live with people where our opinions and interest doesn’t matter so long as we make other people happy. They controlled what we do, and force our priorities. We can change that.

Rules are mainly about distance and closeness. Similarly, attachment styles can be distinguished by either a fear of being abandoned or a fear of intimacy – and these fears influence how people react when their rules are broken.